Last week we looked
Matthew 5:17-20. There Jesus tells us that the Old Testament law and prophets really matter.
1. They are all about him. He is the fulfillment of the law. The law and the prophets point to him. And because the law is about him, he is the one whose interpretation of the law is the right one.
In other words, Jesus stamps his authority on the law, he makes it his own. He shows the direction that the law is pointing in, and thereby – in places – he intensifies the law, and in other places – he annuls the law
2. They matter because obedience to his interpretation of the law and the prophets, is essential.
When everything is accomplished, when the
comes in its fullness - that is when obedience as a requirement becomes unnecessary. We will then choose to live God’s way. But until then, obedience can be a delight, but it is also a duty. Kingdom of God
And now, in these next verses, Jesus looks at what it means to obey the law
He deals with
1. Murder and anger
2. Adultery and lust
4. The words we speak
And today, in verses 21-26, we are going to look at murder and anger.
This is one of those places where Jesus intensifies the law.
Jesus says, You have heard that it was said to the people long ago, ‘You shall not murder, and that anyone who murders will be subject to judgement .. but I tell you that anyone who is angry with a brother or sister will be subject to judgement’.
The sixth commandment prohibits murder. It is not a blanket prohibition on the taking of life (both the Old Testament and the New Testament recognize that there is a judicial process whereby life could be taken), but it is a recognition that human beings are made in the image of God, and that we cannot simply kill another human being because their existence is a challenge to our comfort, freedom, independence or dignity.
But if that is the case, then we need to look deeper. It is not just murder that is the issue. It is about how we treat other people who are made in the image of God. Obviously murder is out, but so also is anger. Why? Because when we are angry with another, when rage takes over, we want to destroy them.
I like the story of the Sunday school teacher who was discussing the Ten Commandments with her class of five and six-year-olds. After explaining the commandment to honour your father and your mother, she asked, "Is there a commandment that teaches us how to treat our brothers and sisters?"
Without missing a beat, one little boy answered, "You shall not murder."
He is right.
Family relationships are always the most intense: love and hatred can be very close.
We only need to read the first book of the bible to realize how messed up family relationships can be: Cain and Abel, Jacob and Esau, Joseph and his brothers. The first involved murder. The second would have involved murder if Jacob had not fled, and the third saw attempted murder.
And the root cause: it is jealousy that led to anger. And anger that led to attempted murder and murder.
So Jesus challenges not only murder, but anger. And he points out that anger is still anger, whether it is expressed in murder or whether it is expressed in a verbal insult.
As one of the commentaries put it, “There is no clear distinction between the person with seething anger, the one who insultingly calls his brother a fool, and the one who prefers, as his term of abuse, "Raca" (transliteration for Aram. reka, "imbecile," "fool,"blockhead".)”
And Jesus warns that it is not just the murderer who will stand in front of the council for judgment. On the last day each one of us will stand before God’s council to answer for our anger.
We need to make one qualification. Anger is not always wrong. God, we are told in Hebrews, was angry with the people of
Israel when they were in the desert escaping from . He says, ‘Even though I had rescued them from slavery; even though they saw miracles, they hardened their heart to me, and they continued to test me’. Egypt
There are times when it is right to be angry: anger when we see a group of bigger kids picking on a smaller kid; when we see blatant injustice. But even then we need to be careful.
James 1:19 warns us that ‘human anger man does not bring about the righteous life that God exists’.
And I suspect we all know the difference between the anger that is under our control, and the anger when we lose it. I strongly suspect that when Jesus turned over the tables in the temple, it was an expression of the anger that he felt as he saw the open exploitation, but he had not lost it. He knew exactly what he was doing.
School teachers know the difference between the anger that is ‘put on’, that makes us ‘become scary’ and the anger that comes when we lose it. So do bosses and customers and parents.
The anger Jesus is talking about here is the anger that comes when we lose it. It is the red mist anger, when we become blind to all else apart from ourselves and the perceived injury done to us: it comes when we are standing in the queue for a train ticket, we’re in a rush, and the person serving completely ignores us. It comes when we are driving and someone cuts us up. Anger is the rage that wells up inside us, that makes us forget that the other person is also a person – and turns them into a demon to be destroyed, physically or verbally. .
Anger comes when we feel that we, or the things that we choose to identify ourselves with, are being belittled, treated as a joke, not given the respect that we deserve. It is when our ego is trashed. As a parent, I lose it with the boys not when they don’t do what I ask them to do, but rather when they do it with the attitude: ‘You just don’t matter’. That is when I see red.
And although what they do is not right, my anger is also not right.
I have to say that this is an area in which God has been immensely gracious with me. As a child I had a dreadful temper. With great shame, I remember some of the occasions as a child when I completely lost it. So don’t mess with me!
But it was an area that I asked God to deal with, and he really has – both through the process of growing up and through his grace. He has taken much of that anger away, and thankfully he has preserved me from doing anything even more stupid.
But anger doesn’t necessarily just come out in violence. It comes out in our words; in verbal explosions, in insults, in jokes about people (the humour hand-grenade), in seeking and relishing revenge. And the causes of anger [jealousy, hurt pride, the desire for revenge], can also be pushed under the surface. They fester like an unhealed wound, and in moments of stress, we explode, destroying others and ourselves. And often the victims of our anger are the completely innocent. We’re really angry about something or with someone, and someone else just happens to be there at the wrong time in the wrong place.
So how do we deal with it?
1. We need to repent.
The passage tells us that anyone who is angry with a brother or sister will be subject to judgment.
Anger is sin, and it is worth remembering that we will one day give an account for our anger to God. When I destroy someone, physically or verbally, I destroy someone who is made in the image of God.
So we need to repent. We really do need to say sorry –to God.
When David had murdered Uriah the Hittite, and was confronted by the awfulness of what he had done by Nathan the Prophet, he prays: ‘Against you alone have I sinned’. I have murdered one of your ambassadors. I’ve declared war on you.
Of course, because we are fallen human beings, we all do lose it. And for some they lose it so badly that they do kill another person. They have to answer both to a human court and the divine court
But we all have to answer to the divine court for our anger. And before it is too late, we need to say sorry to God and we need to ask God to help us change. It might mean asking God to deal with some deeper issues.
It is far better to be honest with God now, so that on the judgment day our plea will not be ‘innocent’, but ‘guilty as charged and dependent completely on your mercy’.
2. We need to move away from thinking about self to thinking about others.
Jesus said this before the cross and resurrection. He is talking about temple sacrifices. If you are about to make a temple sacrifice, and remember that someone has something against you – Jesus doesn’t say whether that something is justified or not justified – get it sorted out before you make your offering.
To be honest, the going to the other person and sorting it out is as great an offering to the Lord as a physical sacrifice.
But we might say, ‘But I have done nothing’. Maybe not. Jesus did nothing, and yet he still hung on the cross for me. If there is going to be reconciliation, someone has to take the first step, has to say sorry, has to deal with the misunderstanding. You can never have reconciliation without someone paying some cost. And Jesus is saying, ‘Make it you’.
3. We need to sort it out.
As our passage says, ‘Settle matters quickly with your adversary .. Do it while you are still together on the way’.
This particularly applies if you are in the wrong. Say Sorry. Do what you can to make amends if it is possible.
The consequences of not sorting it out sooner are far far worse.
An insult, a rejection (intentional or unintentional), a disagreement can, with time, become a bitter dispute.
4. Let God be the judge.
It is not for us to take revenge.
We need to remember how much we owe God, how much he has forgiven us. Don’t take yourself or the thing that you identify yourself by, so seriously. Pass the anger onto God. ‘If your enemy is hungry, feed him; if he is thirsty give him a drink. For in so doing you heap burning coals on his head’ (
Romans 12:20). Let God decide how many and how hot they should be.
I read of the man who had been seriously harmed by a then business partner. Underneath he was so angry with the person. And then on one occasion, he was in MacDonalds with his family, when he noticed the other man walk in with his family. They ordered some food, and then he heard the other man arguing with his wife. They didn’t have the money on them. There was a big scene. As he was walking out, he thought, ‘Good. There is justice in this world’. And then he heard the other voice saying, ‘If your enemy is hungry feed him’. So with deep reluctance he put down a £20 note on the persons table and said, ‘Have this meal on me’. And left. And suddenly all the anger, all the hurt, just went.
The bible tells us, ‘Do not let the sun go down on your anger’.
5. We need to ask God to help us deal with our anger
He does, but it can be a rocky road.
Story of the monk who struggled with anger.
And in the meantime, a couple of pieces of advice:
‘When you get really angry, stick your hands in your pocket’; or, as my granny used to say, ‘Before you answer back, count to 10’.
When it comes to anger, with the exception of Jesus, we are all in the same boat. Anger is one of the things that teaches us that we belong to a fallen world, that we do not live as we were made to live. If someone is right to be angry with us, it is God. And at one level God is angry with us. But his anger is controlled. It does not hit out. And much much deeper than his anger is his love. And in his love he took the immensely costly step to allow reconciliation to take place. He sent his Son Jesus to die for us. ‘As far as it is up to him’ we can be at peace with him. Our part is simply to recognize our sin, our anger, and to receive the forgiveness that he gives, to live forgiveness, and with his help, to change.